Trusting Your Healing Timeline: When Healing Shows Up in Hotel Rooms

I used to think healing was about getting it all “done.” Like if I just read enough, was mindful, or did enough therapy, I’d check the box and finally move on. But in reality, a lot of what I thought I had worked through from my marriage was really just pushed down, and "forgotten".

When my girls first went to visit their dad after the divorce, I was at the very beginning of my Emotion Code training. I understood on some level that the body stores old emotions, but I hadn’t really consciously experienced just how loudly the body can speak when it’s ready to release something.

On this visit we had an experience where I got a phone call in the middle of the night that not only rocked my world, but it brought up a wave of old memories from my marriage that I thought I’d already worked through. I ended up jumping in my car and driving six hours in the middle of the night to pick up my kids.

While driving my body went straight into survival mode. My mouth was so dry I had to chew gum just to create enough saliva to swallow. My heart was racing with palpitations so intense that I had to stop and do an Emotion Code session on myself before I could continue. I wasn’t just driving......I was reliving years of stress and hurt I thought I had already healed. My nervous system was screaming at me that nothing was safe, even though I kept telling myself that everything would be ok.

The next time my girls went for a visit I drove them up and I had a hotel booked nearby. I was excited to read, have some mom time, and catch up with friends! But the second I closed that hotel door, my body had other plans. I got a pounding migraine, and I was sooooo sick. All I could do was lie there in the dark, I was frustrated and disappointed. I had wanted freedom, but what I got was another reminder that my body was still holding on.

For most of my life, I was an “instant fix-it” person. If something broke, I had to fix it right away. If someone was upset with me, I had to make it right immediately. I couldn’t rest until things were solved. This experience showed me that healing doesn’t work that way. It’s not a quick fix, and It’s not some magic formula that is the same for everyone. It’s definitely not about pushing past what your body is still carrying. Healing happens in layers, in waves, and in divine timing....obviously not on my timeline!

So instead of fighting it, I let my body rest and process in that hotel room. I reached out to my mentor, I leaned on my friends who felt safe for me to be real with. I ordered lots of yummy food, I slept, I did energy sessions, and I gave myself permission to go with the flow, even when I didn’t like what the flow looked like.

The hotel stay was over a year ago, and this past summer when my kids went to visit, I didn’t feel the need to book a hotel room close by. We had different arrangements in place, better conversations, and I had more ease in my body......not because I had allowed time to pass, but because I was still doing the "work".

Was the visit perfect? Mostly, but I still had moments of unease. However, this time I trusted my body, trusted my kids, and trusted the safety we’ve all worked to create, and that itself was massive progress for everyone's healing.

If you’re in a season where you feel like you “should be further along,” please hear this.....you’re not behind, you’re absolutely not failing, you’re simply human.

Your body knows when it’s ready to release something. Sometimes it will show you in big breakthroughs, and sometimes it will remind you through a migraine in a hotel room. It doesn't mean you’re broken......it means you’re healing!

My own healing stories are exactly why I do the work I do today. I know what it feels like to have your body scream at you, to think you’re “done” with something only to realize there’s another layer waiting to be released.

That’s why I love using the Emotion Code, Body Code, Belief Code, and frequency sessions. They meet you where you are, just like they did for me, and they help you gently peel back the next layer without forcing you to “be done” before you’re ready.

If you’re feeling like it’s time to release what your body is still carrying and you are ready to create more space for peace, joy, and freedom, please reach out.......this is the work I do every day with my clients.

You can start with this week’s free Sunday Frequency Reset, where our intention is “I trust my healing timeline.” And if you’re ready to go deeper, consider joining my new program A Month Of Worthiness!

Much love to you

Erin